Intimacy journal prompts

An intimacy journal is a few lines, written soon after, about how something felt. Over months it shows you what you would never notice in the moment.

Three rules

• Short. Two lines you write beat a page you put off.
• Honest. Nobody reads it but you. Write what was true.
• Private. Keep it somewhere you do not have to think about who might open it.

For couples

1. When did I feel closest to you this week?
2. What did you do that I did not expect and liked?
3. What did I want to ask for and did not?
4. What was different about the last time that went well?
5. What gets in the way most often: time, tiredness, or something unsaid?
6. What would I like us to try once?
7. What do I do for you that I am not sure you notice?
8. What would a good week look like?

For one

9. What put me in a good mood for it, and what did the opposite?
10. What time of day suits me?
11. How did I feel an hour afterwards?
12. What am I curious about?
13. What do I want more of, and what less?
14. What would I want a partner to know about me?
15. What did I learn about myself this month?

How to use them

Pick one prompt a week. Write the answer the same evening, while it is still clear. Once a month, read back over the four answers and see what repeats.

In Silk

Every moment in Silk can carry a mood and a note, so the journal sits beside the day it belongs to. Insights then show how mood and rhythm move over time.

Updated 11 November 2026.