Silk
App of the Day
from the creators of 
murmur
Layered
Date night
A yes/no/maybe list takes the guessing out of "what are you into?". Each of you answers the same questions on paper, and the conversation starts from what you already agree on.
What goes on it
Anything you might do together, from the ordinary to the adventurous: kinds of touch, places, toys, role play, power exchange, things to say. Write your own list or start from one of the many published ones, and cross out whatever does not apply.
How to fill it in
- Apart. Each of you marks every item on your own copy. Nobody watches.
- Three answers only. Yes means you would like to. No means no. Maybe means you are curious, under the right conditions.
- Add a note to each maybe. "Maybe, if we talk first." "Maybe, once."
How to compare
- Start with the items you both marked yes. That is your list for now, and it is usually longer than either of you expected.
- Next, the items where one said yes and the other maybe. Talk about the conditions on the maybe.
- A no is not up for discussion. It can change later, and only its owner changes it.
Rules that keep it safe
- Nobody has to explain a no.
- A yes on paper is not a promise for tonight. You can still say not now.
- Agree a word that stops things, and what you each need afterwards.
- Look at the list again in a few months. People change.
In Silk
A partner's page keeps what they are into and where their limits are, under headings such as exploration and boundaries. The Exploration page in Insights shows what you have tried and what is still on someone's list.
Updated 11 November 2026.
Questions
What is a yes/no/maybe list?
A list of things you might do together, where each of you marks every item yes, no or maybe. You then talk about the ones you both marked yes or maybe.
How do couples use a yes/no/maybe list?
Each person fills it in alone. Then you compare, start with the things you both said yes to, and treat every no as final for now.
Is there an app for a yes/no/maybe list?
Silk keeps a list of interests and limits for you and for each partner, and its Exploration page shows what is on someone's list and has not been tried yet.